The Henna Wars
by Adiba Jaigirdar
A Bengali-Irish Muslim lesbian teen launches a henna business in Dublin, sparks an enemies-to-lovers rivalry with her biggest bully's cousin, and fights for her culture and her family at the same time.
The story
Nishat Chaudhury is sixteen and knows exactly who she is: Bengali, Muslim, Irish, lesbian. When her parents react badly to her coming out the same week her all-girls school launches a Transition Year business competition, Nishat throws herself into a henna-application business—only to discover that her long-time bully and a new girl she's falling for have launched a competing 'Henna by Chyna.' The rivalry sparks the romance, and the romance forces everyone to reckon with what it costs to hide and what it takes to be seen. Adiba Jaigirdar's debut is a starred-reviewed love story with real teeth: warm, wry, unwilling to pretend that parents accept their queer kids on schedule.
Age verdict
Best for ages 15-18; strong 13-14 readers with support can handle it; mature content makes this inappropriate for under-13. Common Sense Media says 13+.
Our take
parent-leaning literary YA: craft quality and conversation value lift parent/teacher scores above kid entertainment scores
What stands out
Each audience's top 3 dimensions. Out of 30 scored per book.
Kids love
- Character voice Exceptional
Nishat's first-person present-tense voice is exceptional for YA—wry, self-deprecating, anxiously spiraling, with untranslated Bengali cultural vocabulary carrying authentic diasporic interiority. Distinct supporting voices (Priti's brash sisterhood, Flavia's hesitant growth, Ammu's maternal scold-to-tenderness) give the book true character polyphony. Compared to Darius the Great Is Not Okay (9, own-voices voice craft), this sits at the same tier.
- Heart-punch Strong
Multiple heart-punch beats delivered with restraint: the wedding-night coming-out, the anonymous outing text, the trashed-booth scene, the breakup with Flavia leaving untouched tea, and the hair-oiling reconciliation with Ammu's 'I know. I know.' Refusing melodrama amplifies impact—stronger than most YA romance emotional cores, similar to A Monster Calls-register restraint in a contemporary key.
Parents love
- Stereotype-breaker Exceptional
Cultural appropriation unpacked in-text with clarity; homophobia confronted; bullies not redeemed through love; tactical-silence ethics examined. Flavia's growth requires her to SEE her complicity, not merely love past it. Teaches moral reasoning through craft rather than preachment—top-tier YA ethical content, stronger than virtually any genre-romance peer.
- Emotional sophistication Exceptional
Present-day Dublin, Bengali Muslim diaspora home life, all-girls Irish school culture, immigrant-parent dynamics, and LGBTQ+ teen experience—all rendered with lived-in specificity. No stereotyping, no exoticization. Similar to American Born Chinese (9, own-voices cultural authenticity), above most window-book YA.
Teachers love
- Mentor text quality Exceptional
Craft-rich mentor text: first-person present tense, linear-with-memory-embed structure, interwoven plot rails, gesture-based emotional beats, untranslated cultural vocabulary as deliberate stylistic choice, distributed resolution. Teachers can model voice, structure, theme layering, and moral complexity from a single text. Similar to The House on Mango Street (9, cultural mentor text).
- Discussion fuel Exceptional
Every major scene supplies a discussion prompt: bystander behavior at the trashed booth; Flavia's tactical silence vs. complicity; Ammu's comic-sacred 'paansexual' moment; refusal to punish Chyna; distributed resolution. Similar to The Hate U Give (9, discussion-rich on justice), above most YA.
✓ Perfect for
- • queer brown teens looking for an own-voices romance
- • readers who love enemies-to-lovers with moral weight
- • teens navigating the gap between their culture and their identity
- • fans of Becky Albertalli, Adib Khorram, and Casey McQuiston
- • readers interested in Dublin, the Bengali diaspora, or cultural-appropriation conversations
Not ideal for
Readers under 13; readers wanting a romance without homophobic bullying, parental rejection, or outing as plot elements; readers uncomfortable with untranslated cultural vocabulary (Bengali terms used without glossing).
⚠ Heads up
At a glance
- Pages
- 400
- Chapters
- 34
- Words
- 82k
- Difficulty
- Moderate
- POV
- First Person
- Illustration
- None
- Published
- 2020
- Publisher
- Page Street Kids
Mood & style
You'll know it worked when…
high — slow-burn romance with real payoff; readers report reading in 1-3 sittings once hooked
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